Family Happiness - Teamwork

How do you view marriage? Do you regard it just as a channel to gratify your physical and emotional needs or as a house that provides protection and warmth and that needs to be built up by both you and your mate? Living in a world ruled by a spirit of egotism, it is easy to be selfish. But in order to achieve family happiness, we need to contribute and we need teamwork.

After getting married, husband and wife should strive to view their marriage in terms of  "ours" and "we" rather than "mine" and "me". They should learn not to be single at heart by cooperating with each other, even when it is awkward to do so. Since marriage is a permanent and intimate bond, both parties need to make changes so as to become "one flesh".

If you and you spouse are not a team, trivial matters might escalate into major issues with each of you attacking the other rather than the problem at hand. But when you and your mate are a team, you become like pilot and copilot with the same flight plan rather than two pilots on a collision course. When problem arises, instead of wasting time and energy blaming each other, you work out practical solutions.

Now, you can rate your spirit of teamwork by answering following questions:

   1. Do I view the money I earn as "all mine", because I earned it?
   2. Do I keep away from the relatives of my spouse, even though she/he is close to them?
   3. To have a total relaxation, do I need to be away from my mate?

Though husband and wife are "one flesh", they are two individuals with different personalities and preferences. So why not ask your mate for his/her suggestion? By so doing, you two will gradually become more team-oriented.


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