Nicer to other people, but harsh to my own family

The Sacrament of Marriage calls me to participate in Christ’s presence on a daily basis. It calls me to not only show Christ’s love to my husband, but it also invites me to be open to receiving Christ’s love through being loved by my husband.
-Becky Eldredge

So often, I overlook the people around me, the closest, my family, my spouse in being Christ's presence to them. I tend to be nicer to other people and sometimes harsh to my kids and wife. What's happening?

There's something lacking.

I need to be an active participant in showing Christ's presence to my wife and to my kids. I can only do this through being in a relationship with Christ.

How can I show His presence to my family, if I don't know Him personally.

My realization is to know Him personally, receive His love and forgiveness.

But, how? Ask me how?

I don't know! Maybe, I can spend time with Him like I spend time with a dear friend. What do you think?

Feel FREE, to share/comment your ideas.


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6 Tips on How to Move On With Life from Past Broken Relationship

I came across a young professional and ask her to share how she was able to move on in life from her past broken relationship. And so here it is, this will help you in your journey towards freedom.

Moving On With Life

I will be honest with you. Moving on is not easy. Up until my experience with M, I always thought that moving on has been just a matter of putting the past behind you and looking forward to the future. Sounds easy, right? But while that does help, you have to understand that there’s more than meets the eye. There were times, even two years after our ordeal, when I thought I had moved on only to realize that I had past baggage to deal with. Ultimately, this process helped me recover completely and finally move on with my life. It can also work for you after a tragic ordeal like losing family or ending a relationship.

6 Tips on How to Move On With Life

1. Clear your baggage. Every broken relationship comes with baggage that’s a mixture of sadness, disappointment, melancholy, wistfulness, hope and regret. It also includes deeper emotions, especially if the relationship was intense. Rather than block them out, it’s important to embrace and accept these feelings. Once you have connected with them, slowly let them go.

2. Realize he/she is not the one for you: Part of the reason I couldn’t move on sooner was because I kept seeing M as the one for me. But with time, I came to realize that if someone is not 110% sure they want to be with you, then the two of you aren’t meant to be.

3. Share with close friends: It helps a lot if you have close friends with whom you can talk to. Looking back, I don’t know how I could have survived the ordeal if I didn’t have my close friends to talk to and support me.

4. Reduce contact with him/her: You do not want to expose your emotional wounds to the very things they are susceptible to and that includes your ex. If that's what it takes, then you have to reduce contact with him/her otherwise you will just spiral again and again.

5. Forgive him/her: I once came across this statement that you refuse to forgive yourself if you refuse to forgive others. For what it’s worth, when you are angry with someone, you have to remember that the only person carrying bitterness around is you. So why not forgive them, and hence yourself?

6. Meet new people: It’s easy to get stuck in your head dealing with your tragic ordeal. Meeting new people helps remind you that there is a whole world out there that you are missing out on. Go on an amazing adventure of getting to know new people and understanding life from a whole new angle.

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Eliminate Worry and Focus Your Concern

There is nothing your worry can do to impact your fate, if you become concerned about the things you need to gear you forward, you can take control of the uncertainty.

Sharing you all this wonderful article from Jim Stovall.

Worry is a destructive emotion that can cause us to be unhappy, depressed, and physically ill.  Concern is a positive emotion that helps us focus on people and situations where we can make a difference.  If worry causes failure and concern can create success, it becomes imperative that we understand the difference. 

Worry is an exercise in futility involving fretting over things in which we have no control.  My airline statement tells me that I have flown over 2 million miles which is more than 80 times around the world.  This is hard to believe and makes me exhausted just thinking about it.  People often ask if I am worried about the risk of flying.  Statistics show us that flying on a commercial airliner is one of the most safe and secure activities in which we can engage.  There is more risk in driving to your local airport than flying around the world; however, if you unduly worry about flying, it can make you depressed and sick.  Unreasonable worry about airline travel can keep you from experiencing the whole world.

I do not worry about air travel because there is nothing I can do about the weather, the mechanical operation of the plane, or the activities of the pilot.  I simply have no control, and therefore, if I focus on the dangers involved, I am experiencing worry and not concern.  I can be concerned about getting to the airport on time, booking the best flights and connections, or selecting the best route of travel for the seasonal weather conditions.  These are aspects of airline travel that are under my control. 
I spoke with a gentleman recently who was worried about the corporation he works for failing, and therefore, leaving him unemployed.  He works for a multibillion dollar, multinational organization.  There is nothing his worry can do to impact his fate, but if he will become concerned about updating his resume, renewing his career contacts, and learning about the latest cutting-edge developments in his field, he can take control of the uncertainty. 

I don’t mean to imply that there aren’t frightening things in the world, but if we can take control of our emotions, eliminating worry when there’s nothing we can do, and focus our concerns on elements we can change, we can feel empowered and move forward instead of being paralyzed with fear and worry. 

As you go through your day today, eliminate worry and focus your concern.

Source:
Jim Stovall is the president of Narrative Television Network, as well as a published author of many books including The Ultimate Gift.  He is also a columnist and motivational speaker.  He may be reached at 5840 South Memorial Drive, Suite 312, Tulsa, OK  74145-9082; by email at Jim@JimStovall.com; on Twitter at www.twitter.com/stovallauthor; or on Facebook at www.facebook.com/jimstovallauthor

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