I came across a young professional and ask her to share how she was able to move on in life from her past broken relationship. And so here it is, this will help you in your journey towards freedom.
Moving On With Life
I will be honest with you. Moving on is not easy. Up until my experience with M, I always thought that moving on has been just a matter of putting the past behind you and looking forward to the future. Sounds easy, right? But while that does help, you have to understand that there’s more than meets the eye. There were times, even two years after our ordeal, when I thought I had moved on only to realize that I had past baggage to deal with. Ultimately, this process helped me recover completely and finally move on with my life. It can also work for you after a tragic ordeal like losing family or ending a relationship.
6 Tips on How to Move On With Life
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Clear your baggage. Every broken relationship comes with baggage that’s a mixture of sadness, disappointment, melancholy, wistfulness, hope and regret. It also includes deeper emotions, especially if the relationship was intense. Rather than block them out, it’s important to embrace and accept these feelings. Once you have connected with them, slowly let them go.
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Realize he/she is not the one for you: Part of the reason I couldn’t move on sooner was because I kept seeing M as the one for me. But with time, I came to realize that if someone is not 110% sure they want to be with you, then the two of you aren’t meant to be.
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Share with close friends: It helps a lot if you have close friends with whom you can talk to. Looking back, I don’t know how I could have survived the ordeal if I didn’t have my close friends to talk to and support me.
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Reduce contact with him/her: You do not want to expose your emotional wounds to the very things they are susceptible to and that includes your ex. If that's what it takes, then you have to reduce contact with him/her otherwise you will just spiral again and again.
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Forgive him/her: I once came across this statement that you refuse to forgive yourself if you refuse to forgive others. For what it’s worth, when you are angry with someone, you have to remember that the only person carrying bitterness around is you. So why not forgive them, and hence yourself?
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Meet new people: It’s easy to get stuck in your head dealing with your tragic ordeal. Meeting new people helps remind you that there is a whole world out there that you are missing out on. Go on an amazing adventure of getting to know new people and understanding life from a whole new angle.
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